Dylan Stone-Miller, a 32-year-old software engineer from Georgia, made nearly 100 donations to a sperm bank that resulted in at least 96 biological children. Now, he has stepped away from his career to build relationships with his massive progeny.
Stone-Miller first started donating sperm in college as a way to earn extra money after getting an underage drinking ticket. For six years, he routinely donated to Xytex sperm bank for $100 per deposit.
More than a decade later, he was contacted out of the blue by the parents of a three-month-old girl named Harper, one of his many offspring conceived through Xytex. Moved by meeting Harper, Stone-Miller pivoted his life to focus on connecting with the rest of his brood.
After quitting his job, Stone-Miller embarked on a 9,000 mile road trip this summer to visit children across the country. So far, he has met 25 of his kids and keeps a detailed spreadsheet to track their information.
While building bonds with his biological children has been rewarding, it also raises complex questions around what role Stone-Miller plays in their lives. The mothers of Harper and her sister Harlow have told the girls that Stone-Miller is a donor, not their father.
Still, Stone-Miller hopes to foster meaningful relationships, saying it was difficult to tell Harper he wasn’t her dad. He plans to continue his journey meeting his progeny through September.
With 96 and counting, Stone-Miller’s story illustrates the power and potential of sperm donation to create unconventional families. It’s a complicated dynamic, but one he hopes to navigate with care as his unlikely family grows.